I've known some girls who could perform the perfect rimjob, who would lick my asshole and balls with devotion and attention to detail, but this girl does make me wonder if future asslickers will be even better than today's best…
Original post by Bill
A few days ago I wrote about a jezebel article about the rising popularity of butt sex – the subtheme of the article wa sthat now gorls were being expected to have anal sex too much by overeager guys, and that annal fissures were the resulting increasing trend…
The controversy over fifth base
Well, scallywag and vagabond did a followup article to that piece, entitled, amusingly enough:
A good read, click the link, you'll enjoy it I think. Not long, not sophisticated, the counterarguments and true enough but a bit weak and definitely unsupported. But go ahead, read it, it's part of anal culture now.
And the author left out something very important, which I will mention after the snippet.
Here's some snippets:
Really? Men are wishing to perform anal sex to subjugate a woman? To make her unhappy? To assert their own power? If this were the case I would dare think that instead of a general trend of more anal sex in society it would be the other way round- less anal sex as women realized it was both uncomfortable and demeaning to them. But the trends suggest otherwise, rather it suggests that men and women are more open to such affairs and that we only proceed with them because we are consenting adults who ultimately wish to please our partners as much as we aim to please ourselves.
I think his talk of mutual pleasure seeking and a new culture of sexual exploration is accurate enough, as far as it goes.
But, anal sex does have elements of domination and subjugation in it. Thats what makes it hot.
Here's the part that gets left out – for the people that like it, anal sex is the most incredibly bonding of sex acts that a couple is likely to experience. Even a bad anal experience can be immensely bonding. Frankly it never fails to make me feel incredibly close to a woman, to feel more trust in her, to feel that mushy in love feeling EVEN IF I"VE BEEN WITH HER FOR YEARS.
This is one of teh secrets of anal sex – it makes the man a fucking mushball of love and oxytocin bonding afterwards. It;s not JUST about domination, it's about the feelings of intimacy and yes, love, that come after the shared experience of domination and subjugation, the shared experience of anal sex and anal contact.
Now, this is probably not true for all people – you know, the old theories of tit men and ass men and oral or anal fixations, maybe theres soem truth to it, and for another emotional-sexual "type" anal sex wouldn't trigger that intense bonding. That's something for future sex researcher sto discover.
But – we are discussing anal sex at all right now because it's still the taboo hole – our society is obsessed with anal sex and forbidding anal sex – meaning that perhaps anal is the taboo that triggers bonding for a lot of folks – and fear of pleasure and inappropriate bonding in others.
Girls, something to think about – he wants you asshole in hopes of having something special with you, at the very least, of having a memory that never fades.
Original post by Bill
There was a good article by Tristan Taormino in her Pucker Up column recently, in which she mentions something that was important enough to bear repeating.
” Anal Eze and lubes like it contain benzocaine (or a similar ingredient), a topical anesthetic—think Ora-Gel for your butthole. They numb your butt so you can’t feel what’s going on; when you use them, you’re more likely to go farther or take something bigger in your ass than you’re ready for. The result: a sore ass, possible tearing and damage to the delicate lining of the anal canal and rectum, and pain—all things that won’t exactly make you want to rush right out and try anal sex again. Plus, on the off chance that the anal penetration is pleasurable, you won’t be able to feel that either.”
Tristan Taormino’s “Sensitive Spots”
She describes anal ease as her “archnemesis” – well, that’s giving it way too much credit. What it is, is a stupid product, don’t use it. It’s not even a particularly good lubricant, in my opinion, at least not the product I tried, maybe there are other versions or names that are better.
She argues against it because it numbs the girls insides and makes injuries, tearing, and discomfort more likely for her afterwards, and that’s probably true. I can’t say that for sure, because it didn’t do so the times that I tried it.
But one thing I do know, it fucks up the sensations of the experience, for her, and definitely for me, or for you, if you happen to be a male. Your dick gets numb, and mostly numb at the tip. You can’t feel her asshole sliding over your cock. Whoever fucking thought this was a good idea?
Some people say it delays ejaculation – well, damn straight it delays ejaculation – frankly, it was so annoying an effect I had to stop fucking and wait till that shit wore off.
It’s a waste of your money. Just get good lube, and practice using it, during regular sex, so it will just always be right at hand when the time for anal sex comes up.
Here’s some free anal porn for ya!
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Original post by Bill
Men know why – there's this dammed thing in our brains that says our worth as a man is measured by the the number of women we have fucked, and our ability to seduce new women. It's some ancient veldt thing, for when you might run into strange pussy a few times a year – your genetic worth as aman is determined by wether you can get strange pussy to get wet and put that wet on your dick.
It kinda sucks. We love you like cazy – but that thing in our brains says we are worthless if we can't prove our veldt virility by banging a little on the side.
Here's some stuff on it – read up and get one guys thoughts on why men need to cheat on their wives, or girlfreinds or what have you.
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/vicki-larson/why-men-need-to-cheat_b_1170015.html
The men in your study experienced a sharp decrease in the frequency and enjoyment of sex after two monogamous years. Since no one can sustain the kind of thrilling sex couples have in the beginning of a relationship, isn't it a healthy thing that it decreases?
I wish young men got two years of good sex before it dropped off; it's a lot less than that! It may, however, be good that the sexual desire for one's partner weans; it means that we end up staying with our long-term partners for the socioemotional connection and not for the sex. If a couple is going to raise a family, it is the emotional connection that counts, not the sexual.
Our physical desires don't die; they just change from our partner to people other than him/her. We falsely believe that when the sex dies, the relationship has also died. The reality is the opposite; when the sex dies the relationship has just begun.
What about the idea that long-term relationships make sex become deeper, more intimate and more meaningful?
The diminution of sex is simultaneous to one's emotional bonds growing stronger. Long-term partners may have more intimate sex (most just have very little) but when men see a guy or girl who turns them on, it's not intimate and meaningful sex they are craving.
Original post by Bill
I came across this video and realized it contained a quite good description of some of the anti anal sex shit accident anal preperations that anal porn girls do before a scene.
And it mentions the immodium trick – so bonus.
The anal sex info is in the first few minutes of the video – so start it, she starts talking about anal pretty quick?
Anyways, they mentium the immodium trick, which is also an anal preperation trick that works with those pink bismuth liquids, that pink liquid stomach and diarhhea medicine stuff. If your girl drinks some of this stuff, immodium or pink bismuth pepto bismol – it will slow digestion, lock processed food in the small intestine, and keep the colon and rectum nice and clean – it's pretty dammed effective.
And guys, this also works if you are planning to get your hot bitch to lick your asshole and rim you the way a girl should rim and honor her man, with her tongue pushed up in tehre as far as she can get it. I use this same trick myself to keep my anus clean for rimming – and i LOVE to get my asshole licked clean by a girl.
Try it – it works.
And girls – now you know a secret – take immodium or other anti-diarrhea medicines before dates and hot nights – even if you aren't planning anal, it keeps your asshole nice and clean, and who doesn't like having a clean asshole?
Original post by Bill
ya think?
Take, for example, the latest data on anal sex. According to the National Survey of Family Growth, which surveyed thousands of people between the ages of 15 and 44 in 2006-2008, anal sex is really popular with heterosexuals. 44 percent of straight men report having anal sex at least once in their lives, and 36 percent of straight women do too.
Original post by Bill
i have an emergency question. google brough me to this blog and then i found this post.
on new year's eve my girlfriend and i decided to try anal for the first time. it was her first time and it was new year's eve so she was pretty drunk. i think we did most things right because it did not seem to hurt her but after about five minutes i began to notice that my cock was covered in shit. she clearly was not aware as we were in the doggy position and i did not mind too much but it smelled pretty bad. we carried on and i finished inside of her arse, but as i was pulling out she basically had a full bowel movement on the bed. the worst part is that she was completely unawere that it happened. what a mess.
anyway i wonder if that ever happened to you and why you think it hapened and what should i do in the future to avoid it?
Hey man – yes, it’s happened to me, tho maybe not as bad as you describe, and it has probably happened to every serious and skilled anal sex guy. It’s a mess, like you say, but it’s one of the normal possibilities from anal sex, ESPECIALLY drunken anal sex,
I’d say the important thing is not to freak out your girl by overemphasizing it – because, if you and she like anal, you might want to have it again under better conditions, and if you make her feel bad about it, she’s going to get uptight at the thought of future anal sex.
I personally always figure if I’m going to fuck my girl in the ass the sheets may be a loss.
You have to understand that the porn movies lie – those girls in teh movies have taken about 3 fleet enemas before their anal scene, so that shit almost never shows in the movie – but, the anus and rectum is a tube for moving shit out of the body, it’s ALWAYS possible that your girl has some poop in there, ESPECIALLY if anal sex is something that happened spontaneously.
I’ve written before about this – and said – if you are afraid of shit, and getting shit on your cock or on the bed, anal sex is not for you. And given advice for how to handle and avoid shit, such as, use an anal blanket, a nice soft blanket you throw over the bed that has a secret function, to catch shit if any appears, and then to be thrown away as a quick and graceful solution to th shit problem. I’ve also said, watch what your girl eats , and do NOT try anal sex after big meals or meals likely to cause bowel trouble.
Some alcohol and anal can be a great mix – but if she’s blasted drunk, dude, you are taking your chances – because of exactly what happened to you, alcohol will help her relax, but also increase the chances that she relaxes so much that she poops, or has the strong feeling of having to poop. She may need to jump up and run to the bathroom – this is VERY common – and you have to be a calm mature man about it, send her off, kiss her when she gets back, and carefully figure out if she can handle continueing.
It’s also very common for a girl, especially an inexperienced girl. to exclaim that she is afraid she is going to poop, especially when you are pulling out your cock. You know that STUPID trick that the idiot porn guys do to those poor girls, where they pop their cock out, show her asshole, and push it back in, over and over? DON’T DO THAT! it’s incredibly stupid, bad anal sex technique, and unless your girl is very experienced she almost certainly will hate it, because it makes her feel liek she is about to poop every time, and it’s not particularly pleasureable.
If your girl says she is afraid she is going to poop, tell her you understand, that it might happen but probably wont, that it’s not a problem if she does, you will just clean it up, shit is no big deal. The protection against that feeling of about-to-poop is to keep your dick in her, deep, and hold her. And if she says “No I really need to poop”, hug her and send her to the bathroom.
So, bottom line – what happened to you was normal – tho it usually won’t happen with well planned anal sex. I figure it’s your responsibility as the man to be calm about it and not make your girl feel bad.
And everybody, keep in mind, a shit accident is always a possibility with anal sex, be prepared, and never ever be a wuss about it.
(By the way guy, this is such an important question that I am going to make a dedicated post with it…)
Original post by Bill
Surely the end is nigh! (end – heh heh heh)
What has sizzling fatty goodness and slides into your girls fluttering anus – why, it's your cock, slathered with baconlube.
I hear it's crap. I shocked, shocked I say.
Use a good silicone lube instead, or.hailing that, one of the fairly good water base dlubes like astroglide.
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Original post by ASS to MOUTH TEENAGERS
Last week or so Jezebel published an article about butt sex… The Popularity And Perfectionism Behind Butt Sex
As articles go its a mix, some good commentary, some bad, I enjoyed it, even the "Anal sex is bad mkay because now all guys expect all girls to give up the anus" point of view.
I figure an [...]
Original post by ASS to MOUTH TEENAGERS
